Doc Love Dating Advice
CLUMSY QUESTIONS GUARANTEED TO DERAIL YOUR DATE
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
I can't thank you enough, Doc! You’re amazing! I was skeptical in the beginning when I first started reading your articles on askmen.com. But I'll tell you, now that I’ve got your “System” I have to say it’s the best investment I’ve ever made. I was dating a lot, but I was just never getting past more than one or two dates with ANY woman. I didn’t even know how lost and confused I was. Now, it all makes sense.
Everything that I was doing to try to raise their Interest Level was exactly the opposite of what you teach. I was being pushy, insecure, pressuring women and making them uncomfortable. I was trying to be what my idea of a “jerk" was because that's what it seemed to me that women really want. Nope. I get it now. What they really want is a gentleman who is a Challenge!
I got your materials approximately 48 hours ago. I've already read half of the manual and plan to read the whole thing at least 6 times. I went out and bought a whiteboard and markers last night. I'm diagramming and taking notes, just like school. This is work, but I love it. At least I’m not stumbling around in the dark anymore. I've started to sit back and be patient. I have ceased complimenting women constantly.
The transformation in me is almost funny to watch. I can already see positive results in my interactions with women. I'm trying to go slowly and be the patient man, but I want to put all of these principles into effect immediately.
Somewhere along the way I lost confidence, control and the ability to be a Challenge. I don't know where, how, when, or why, but who cares? By the time I had read the first 20 pages of your manual, I felt the confidence returning, almost as if it was injected into my veins. I knew that I was in possession of a great tool. I'll compare it to the fountain of youth, a secret that men should be willing to kill for.
The thing that really hit home for me right off the bat was what you teach about the stupid ignorant things that we guys tend to habitually say to women. The lines that we think are going to get us somewhere, but actually lower their Interest Level before the first date is even over.
Now I’m watching and listening with new eyes and ears. That was me. I was the guy who would say, “So, have you ever had a one night stand?” to a girl and then wonder why she didn’t want to go out with me again.
As you can tell, I’m walking on air with my new-found-wisdom, AND, if you have any extra examples of common lines that us guys tend to say to women that we think are romantic but are really a turn off, that would be extra cool. I want to learn as much as I can!
Please feel free to use me as a reference anytime. Thank you!
Ted – who wants to spread the joy
Hey, Brother Ted,
Congratulations. After years of needless suffering you’ve found the truth, and the truth has set you free. God bless the Internet.
Some guys have to be spoon-fed the truth about women and relationships. Their egos won’t permit them to take it all in at once. These types need to go through a de-programming process before they can allow themselves to accept all of the concepts of “The System.” They’ve spent too much time either listening to Feminista propaganda OR, trying to be Mr. Macho Boy. Fortunately, these guys ARE coachable.
Then there’s another type of guy. The poor miserable bastard who’s just too pig-headed to EVER get it. His ego is slowly strangling him. He won’t even consider that he needs to learn ANYTHING about women even though he keeps getting burned. He’s one of what I call one of “the lost souls.” He’d rather be RIGHT than be happy. Or, as Jack Nicholson in “A Few Good Men” would say to this guy, “You can’t handle the truth!”
But YOU, my brother Ted, are on the complete opposite side of the spectrum. You LOVE the truth. You’re hungry for the truth. You were ripe and ready for a revelation and now you can’t get enough. You’re having what the Eastern mystics would call - an awakening. So relax, enjoy it and continue to be patient as the awakening process unfolds.
All right, so you’d like some more examples of counter-productive cliches that guys like to use on women. Stupid lines that are guaranteed to sink your ship of love before you can even get the sails up.
Ok. But first, let’s examine the one that you already mentioned; “So, have you ever had a one night stand?” Now is that a classy thing to say to a woman? Is that going to make her feel comfortable? As they say in Argentina, “No.” When you ask a woman that question, all it does is instantly make her think, “Oh God, here’s another horny dog who just wants to get into my pants.” You might as well just say, “So, are you a slut?”
I think that a guy asks a woman that question hoping that she’ll say something like, “A one night stand? I LOVE one night stands. I can’t wait to have another!” And how often do you get that kind of answer? Maybe like, never(?) When asked the ‘one night stand’ question, a woman usually either just says “No” or at best she says. “Oh, I used to do that kind of thing but not any more.” The Bottom Line Factor says that any way you look at it, asking this question is only going to lower a woman’s Interest Level. To you Psych majors, it’s a big turn-off.
Another question that guys will often ask a girl on a first date is: “So what type of guy do you usually go out with?” Now that’s a pitifully weak way of trying to evaluate a woman’s Interest Level in you. When a guy asks a woman that question, what he’s really asking is, “Am I your type?” which is a wimpy thing to ask. It’s just as bad as asking, “Do you like me?” Would a woman ever have romantic fantasies about a guy who asks her, “Do you like me?” Only if she’s a Feminista-control-freak.
If any of you guys have any doubts that these clumsy questions aren’t a common phenomena in the dating scene, just watch “Blind Date” and the other dating shows on TV.
For more examples and explanations of destructive dating clichés, Ted, finish studying “The System.” You’ll find plenty more there.
Remember, guys, you’re more attractive to women when you don’t ask stupid questions.
To send me your love questions or to find out more about “The System,” visit me at http://www.doclove.com or call (800) 404-2644.
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, “Why do you stay with one man versus another?”
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