Doc Love Dating Advice
WHEN DO YOU NOT WAIT A WEEK TO CALL?
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
I met this cute girl, Cindy, at a party last week. We hit it off right away. She was touching me a whole bunch and I got her home phone number.
She also asked me for my phone number so I gave it to her. I knew from reading your articles, Doc, that it’s ok to give a girl your phone number but ONLY if she’s already given you hers, and this girl actually gave me hers before I even asked for it. It was totally obvious that she had very high Interest in me and my Interest Level in her was real high too.
So even though I was dying to call her the next day, I didn’t. I was all set to wait a week to contact her, according to your “System”, but when I came home the night after I met her, there was a message on my service from her, asking me if I’d like to go out “for lunch or dinner or something.” Yes, that’s right. She called me the next day and asked me out! I’ve never had that happen before.
So now I’m not sure what to do. Should I stick to the plan and wait till a week has gone by to call her, or should I return her call right away? I feel like calling her right back but I’m committed to doing the right thing according to your principles, Doc. Since I’ve been studying your materials I’ve realized how many chances I’ve blown with women by being too eager and I don’t want to blow it any more.
So, Doc, what should I do?
Dale – who needs an answer right away
Congratulations. You’ve got a live one there! This girl’s giving you more buying signals than a shop-aholic with a new gold card. As my cousin Sal “The Fish” Love would say, “When they dig you, they let you know it.”
Yes, you my brother, Dale, have experienced those rare phenomena that only takes place when the Moon is in the seventh house and Jupiter aligns with Mars. That quite uncommon occurrence -- a woman calling a guy and asking him out. Isn’t it a trip? Isn’t it refreshing? Yep, you gotta love it.
And I commend you, Dale, on you dedication to doing whatever it takes to change your love life for the better. You’re a great role model for all students of “The System”.
So let’s get you straightened out here. Yes, in almost all circumstances, when we first get a girl’s phone number, we do wait a week before we call her. But this situation you find yourself in, Dale, is unusual, and you can’t just be a robot who follows only one programming command. Part of becoming a “Three Percenter” (one of the three percent of men who have true mastery with women) involves learning when and when not to improvise and bend the rules. In this case we’re going to take a left turn.
What you should do is wait only one more day and then call Cindy back and make a date with her. Why am I saying that it’s OK to do that? The big thing here is that she’s coming at you. As they say in the trenches, it’s “Incoming”. She’s taken a risk and allowed herself to be vulnerable so it’s appropriate to meet her halfway.
We don’t want you to be like one of those “Rules Girls” who refuse to return a man’s call because they want him to grovel before they’ll go out with him. It’ good policy to always be courteous. But don’t worry. You’re still going to be a Challenge, Dale, because when you call Cindy, you’re not going to spend a half hour chatting with her, diminishing your mystery quotient. Most guys would do that, but you’re going to be different.
Instead, you’ll say “Hi, hello, how ya doin?” and then go for the jugular and make a date with her, badda bing badda boom. When you do that, you’re being direct and decisive, and women love that. So go ahead, Dale, and dial those digits.
Remember, guys: you gotta know when to follow the rules, and when to bend them.
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, “Why do you stay with one man versus another?”
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