Doc Love Dating Advice
HOW TO PASS THE PHYSICAL ATTRACTION TEST
Women Don't Lie - Men Don't Listen
Success Coach - Doc Love
You say that in order for a woman to be interested in a guy at all, that he first must pass what you call “The Physical Attraction Test.” You say that if she’s not physically attracted to him, then the guy is pretty much powerless to raise her Interest Level above the critical 50% threshold. I mean you really make a big deal out of how you might as well give up any hope of getting anywhere with a girl if she’s not physically attracted to you, which makes sense.
But, in other articles of yours I notice that you encourage guys to always go for the 9’s and 10’s if they feel confident enough to take the risk. You seem to be telling guys who might rate only say a 5 on the looks scale, who don’t have a chance of passing a 10’s looks standards, to try anyway. I’m confused. If ‘passing the physical’ is the number one prerequisite that must be fulfilled before anything can go anywhere, then why should a guy ever pitch a girl who’s way out of his league?
Clarence – who just doesn’t get it.
I like your question.
Let’s start at square one. Ok, so you’re a single guy, and you want to get yourself a girlfriend. The first thing you have to do is put yourself in an environment where you can meet single, available women. Once you find a place to meet women where you feel comfortable, whether it’s a ballroom dancing class or a biker bar, you should approach and strike up a conversation with as many different women as you can. Some of them may be 6’s, some of them may be 10’s but you should talk to all of them. Why? Because you never know who you’re going to click with. To you Psych majors, chemistry is everything.
I don’t recommend that you fixate on only the most beautiful women. You may meet a 6 1/2 who has a 10+ personality, and wind up having an incredibly wonderful committed relationship with her. Remember, the Reality Factor says that the lower a girl’s rating on the beauty scale, the higher her level of giving, sweetness and flexibility tends to be.
Now, on the other hand, I encourage you not to be intimidated in any way by the 10’s. It’s bad policy to look at a drop-dead-gorgeous woman and tell yourself that she’s out of your league. Why? Because you never can tell what kind of guy she may find attractive. You may think of yourself as a 6 but she might see you as a 9 because there’s some quirky thing about you that just rings her bell. Good looks are subjective. How many times, Clarence, have you seen a strikingly gorgeous woman with a guy who ain’t no big deal in the looks department?
There’s another reason to always pitch whatever woman you’re interested in, including the 10’s. It could turn out that you just barely pass the physical, but you do squeak by. Once you do, you can then use “The System” to slowly but surely raise her Interest Level. “The System” gives you a huge advantage over the hunky pretty boy who comes on too heavy too quickly and can’t keep his hands off a woman.
The point I’m making is that you never know whether you’re going to pass the physical with any chick, a 5 or a 10, until you check it out. Every woman is different; every single one is unique. Cindy likes tall, thin blonde guys, but her twin sister, Sandra, will date only stocky Latin men. Go figure.
Also, remember that the only reason you’re pitching so many different women is so you can find the one for you. All you need is one. You only need to keep greeting and meeting new babes until you find Miss Right (and get past two months with point with her.)
Remember, guys, you never know who’s gong to like you until you check it out.
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Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, “Why do you stay with one man versus another?”
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