Doc Love Dating Advice
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Success Coach - Doc Love
Iíve been reading your columns lately and I find that I like your no-nonsense approach to women and dating and the fact that you never BS us guys with false hope about how to handle the opposite sex. Please keep telling it like it is.
So Iím going to put it to you straight. Iíve noticed that the only guys who score the really hot babes in this world are the Donald Trumps, the Hugh Hefners, and the Michael Douglases. In other words, the guys so loaded with money they donít even know what to do with it all. Itís actually very discouraging when you stop and think about it. Itís like the guy with no money has zilch chance of getting and keeping a ď10.Ē And whatís worse is that if you happen to find and succeed in dating a Beautiful Woman, sheís history the minute some rich, overly successful or famous dude looks twice at her. And Iím not exaggerating. Itís happened to me more than once.
So my question to you is this: what can a guy with no budget like myself offer a girl, really? Does a guyís financial portfolio play the biggest part in maintaining a relationship? Letís face it, Doc, when do you ever see a woman like Melania Trump with a construction worker or a librarian?
I hate to think this way, Doc, but isnít it true that all Beautiful Women are Mercenaries? I donít like to paint a completely pessimistic picture of what itís like out there, but thatís how I see it.
What are women really looking for in a guy? Most guys I know are attracted to the Angelina Jolies and the Bo Dereks, but wouldnít we be better off scaling down our expectations and going for the Plain Janes when we donít have big-time money? Or is there something we can do to romance a beauty that doesnít cost and arm and a leg and will keep her Interest Level high?
Iím really curious to hear what you have to say about this, Doc.
Channing - whoís sick of coming in second to the fat cats
Let me tell you something. Iím the only love doctor out there who tells the truth when it comes to women, and Iím the only love doctor out there who has all the right answers. My job is to help men, not BS them. My job is to keep you in touch with REALITY. So you can ALWAYS count on me to tell it like it is, and not like you want it to be, which is the mind-set that sinks so many guys in their dating relationships. And thank you very much for the compliment Ė I do appreciate it.
Letís move on to your problem. You cite the examples of Trump, Hefner and Douglas, three guys who have it made with any Beautiful Woman on the face of the earth. But of course, thatís just the problem in your argument Ė they happen to be just three guys, and thatís all. If there are 100 good-looking women out there for the taking, those three guys get one each (except for Mister Rabbit Ears, who always gets more than his quota), and thereís 97 left over for the rest of us. And as my cousin Rabbi Love likes to say, ďThere are lots of nice girls in the world who want to live in an upper middle-class home but who are NOT BUYABLE.Ē Theyíre simply not for sale.
So Channing, the premises youíre operating from are erroneous. What youíve got in your head are half-truths built on half-truths. And, like you told me up above, I always give you guys the 100% unvarnished truth. Sure, lots of beauties are Mercenaries. But there are tons of ugly women out there who are Mercenaries too.
And youíre also wrong about the Average Joe having zilch chance of holding onto a hottie. If you happen to be the best carpenter in town, you can get yourself a ď10Ē Ė but you also have to be a Challenge and humorous. See, the real problem you had with the babes who defected on you is that you didnít own them. Donít blame the rich and famous dudes for stealing them away. Blame yourself for not going by ďThe System.Ē You just happened to be dating Beautiful Women whose Interest Level was only 40% to 49%. Like my cousin Sal ďThe FishĒ Love says, ďPaisan, the simple truth of the matter is that they werenít into you enough to stick around.Ē
So, what does a no-budget guy have to offer a girl? CHALLENGE and HUMOR, like I said before. I canít say it enough. Want to know everything I know about women in two words (which is impossible by the way)? The two words that come closest are CHALLENGE and HUMOR. Most rich boys donít have Challenge, and thatís why they beg her to take the keys to the Ferrari. Nice, self-reliant girls get bored with that no-Challenge tactic after a while. And most guys arenít funny. Thatís where guys who have studied my techniques come in.
But on the other hand, your financial portfolio does play some part in your relationships, because she wants to know what youíve been up to for the last twenty-eight and a half years. Have you been going to school and learning something useful? Starting your own business? Trying to be creative? Or have you been sitting on your butt whining and watching TV and collecting unemployment compensation from when you got laid off from your job on the Home Depot loading platform? Do you realize that we live in an economic society and that it takes money Ė the more the better -- to get by? The point is this: why should she take a step down? Like my cousin Fast Eddie Love says, ďIf sheís used to Cadillacs or BMWs, why should she ride in a 10-year-old Chevy?Ē
So, you never see any of the Trump wives hanging around with a mechanic? Heck, I went to a biker convention the other day and I saw a bunch of them! Man, youíre definitely too fixated on the notion that all Beautiful Women are Mercenaries. And as I explained above, youíre a little off base. (The actual number is only 49%!) You do paint a bleak picture of what itís like out there on the dating battlefield, but itís a fallacy on top of a fallacy. Bo Derek hasnít remarried since her husband died, has she? Nobodyís sold her yet, and sheís looking for love, right? As far as Angelina goes, sheís finally fessing up that sheís seeing the stud.
Settling for the Plain Janes is erroneous reasoning on your part, one more half-truth. Guys, you go for whoever likes you. And the best way to negotiate that is by virtue of Challenge leavened with humor.
You want a suggestion for how to romance a Beautiful Woman and keep her Interest Level in the eighties? Buy her a hot dog at the zoo. Or an ice cream cone at the park. Or some popcorn at the movies.
Remember, guys: the more money you have, the handsomer you are.
To send me your love questions, listen to my CALL-IN TALK SHOW, or to find out more about ďThe System,Ē visit me at http://www.doclove.com or call (800) 404-2644.
Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women, ďWhy do you stay with one man versus another?Ē
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