Doc Love Dating Advice

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                     Success Coach - Doc Love

Hey Doc,

I’ve read your book several times and am a true believer in what you teach. Not that you need any help with weekly articles, but I thought a good subject might be an expansion of the concept of the “rock star” and the “guys in the band” that you include in your Dating Dictionary.

Why is it that these guys can dress sloppy, break all the rules, show no respect for anyone or anything and yet end up scoring the best-looking babes left and right? What is it about the “rock star” that creates such an instant high Interest Level in women? And are those women usually Flexible Givers, or are they just Mercenaries?

I would suppose that a large part of the whole mystique of this type of guy is the instant Challenge that famous people bring with them and the fact that Kitty Kats Kompete over them because they draw huge crowds. But I don’t want to second-guess the Doc since I’m just a student!

At any rate, we know their names: from Keith Richards and Tommy Lee to a second-rate freak like Dennis Rodman, these guys snag the hottest girls without even trying. Always have, always will.

Finally, Doc, I have to confess that I’ve been personally burned, which accounts for my interest in this phenomenon. Like an idiot – or should I say Wimpus Americanus – I courted Erica for a whole year, including escorting her to fancy restaurants and buying her expensive jewelry only to watch her take off like a giddy schoolgirl over some grungy loser in a crappy band here in Chicago where we live. In my mind I saw her as a classy woman, but in the end she was nothing but a groupie. Doc, it was a sobering experience, to say the least.

Anyway, any insight would be greatly appreciated. I’m sure there are other guys out here like me who want to know your thoughts on this. Thanks.

Martin - who wishes he had the magic himself

Hi Martin,

There’s a simple reason why the guys in the band score they way the do, and it’s because they play the guitar to 80,000 people. Women are suckers for that kind of power. The fact that a rock star can control a huge audience is the biggest aphrodisiac of all. On the other hand, that allure doesn’t guarantee a long-lasting relationship. And that’s what “The System” is about, not an instant score because you strum a Fender Telecaster in front of a ton of screaming fanatics.

You want to know what creates instantaneous high Interest Level in women? CELEBRITY, dude. When you have celebrity, you automatically have power. Like my cousin “Fast Eddie” Love says, “When she sees your mug on TV, it’s a huge turn-on, baby!” Not only that, but pussycat is thinking about all the other pussycats who are after you and that turns her on even more -- so you’re on the money there, Martin. You could even have low self-esteem and be as shy as a wallflower on the inside (think about all the stars who can’t function without junk and booze), but when it comes to tickling the guitar strings, you’re the greatest in the world.

Actually, the chippies who chase after the grunge guitar boys are going to be Flexible Givers at least temporarily, because at first they’re only too happy to be basking in the light of the star’s celebrity wattage. But if you had one of those star-effers over the long haul and she’s not a Flexible Giver at heart, eventually she’ll revert to whatever she was. Because what happens when you live with someone month after month, year after year is that the real you finally comes out.

Of course it’s always possible that these women are Mercenaries but on the whole these females are generally more interested in the reflected FAME. That’s the name of the game here. (Not that it’s so terrible lying poolside at the rock star’s $12 million mansion in Beverly Hills watching the smog hover over L.A.!)

You mention that these guys score without even trying and you’re on the mark there, too, buddy. You think Kid Rock has to wait a week to call a girl? He just says, “Climb in!” after the show and before he knows it she’s all over him in the back seat of the limo. It’s just that quick -- he has that kind of magnetism going for him. (Of course if I were a girl, I’d think the poor guy needed a hot bath and a barber!)

But Martin, you have to ask yourself what kind of girl this is. Is this a well-balanced, rational, self-reliant human being? Or nothing more than a hanger-on -- a leech who wants to get close to the star power without having to work for it herself?

Guys like Tommy Lee may get the Pamela Andersons and Heather Locklears, but they don’t keep them. And if they do, they’re only going to keep one of them, which means all the others are going to be out looking for other guys.

No matter what, you should have read Erica quicker. If you would have memorized my material, you would have cracked the real Erica a lot faster, and that’s the whole idea. My program is an efficiency program that allows YOU TO CUT TO THE TRUTH FAST. I don’t want you wasting valuable, irreplaceable time on a worthless groupie who appears to be classy on the outside. My techniques encourage you to talk to a girl -- really talk to her -- so that you can get to know what makes her tick. When certain important subjects come up, you’ll delve into them. You’ll ask, “Gee, what kind of guys do you dig?” And if she answers “Well, I dig a filthy guy with long greasy hair who plays the guitar,” you’re out of there! Let’s dig up that information in the first couple of weeks – not after 12 months!

You know how wrong it is to take them to fancy restaurants and buy them expensive jewelry if you’re acquainted with my principles, so I don’t have to go into that. Hey, the rock star doesn’t buy his women anything. And he doesn’t need to.

Most people think there are only two types of guy in the world: the Wimp and the Macho Boy. But there’s a third type, and he’s a lot like the actor Cary Grant. He’s got manners and class, but he’s not going one step out of his way to chase a woman. This is the guy you want to be. You want to be a positive challenge. Guys who are disrespectful to women are negative challenges, and I never want a man to be disrespectful, in spite of what the Feministas would like to have you believe about me.

Remember, guys: if you don’t memorize my book, you better be as good on the guitar as Santana, or forget women.

To send me your love questions or to find out more about “The System,” visit me at or call (800) 404-2644.

Doc Love is a talk show host and entertainment speaker who coaches men in his seminars. For the past 30 years he has asked thousands of women,
”Why do you stay with one man versus another?”

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